Hi Frank,

Here's a query for you Frank, why is it that when you find someone, that other man wants you back?

Im so tired of it and it has happened me more than once now. I've been mad about this guy (no names) for ages now and when I started chatting to him it became obvious he was into me too. Then when it came down to it, he decided he wasn't interested and I later found out he has a girlfriend. I was so angry with him at the time but over it now and seeing someone new. He's really lovely and very hot so I'm delighted, or so I thought.

This other lad I was telling you about has just contacted me again and asked me to go for a drink with him. I always say yes to stupid idea's like this and get myself in trouble so I have refrained so far. Plus, the guy I'm with now would be far from happy.

I keep replying to his texts as he doesn't have a girlfriend anymore but I know I'm being cheeky. There's a party on next wednesday and I know for a fact he will try it on with me. What will I do Frank?

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Hi missus, you sound like a cheeky little thing. I nearly couldn't quite keep up with you but I managed ha ha!

I think you want more than you can even chew lady. You didn't mention this fella you are with now too much so maybe ask yourself how much you like him? I think you should stay clear of this other stud though. He seems to want all his cake and eat it too. Remember, he didn't treat you very well either did he? Then again, if its just a little fun you are after, do as you please. I do think you are best off leaving this little casanova to it though! Let me know what happens when you decide angel!

Frank,

Hiya Frank, I'm a bit lost at the minute. My boyfriend has been acting strange recently. He is usually really affectionate and cuddly but of late, he is being really quite cold! I can't think of anything that I have done wrong and so I'm worried he just doesn't want to be with me for some reason or another. As far as I know, its not because of another girl but then again, what if i'm wrong? We usually meet up about 3 times a week but it has dwindled to only 1 or 2. I miss the old him and when we are together, he seems distant and not arsed! What could it be? His sister Liz moved to America recently for a job and I know they were very close but I still think its more than that? Advice would be greatly appreciated! I don't know what to do next..

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Hi gorgeous lady, I as a man can maybe help you with this. I think you just need to talk. Men express (or don't express) things differently to girls. If there is a problem, then you need to find out what it is and work on it. I seem to tell all my problem gals the same thing, but communication really does solve a whole lot of problems. Baby, you can't let this bother you anymore. After all, you said you have done nothing wrong that you know of, so it is most definitely something going on in his head that he is not sharing. It may even be just a phase but he won't get over it until you bring the issue to a surface. Just have a chat next time you two meet. It will do you the world of good, whether resolved for good or bad! Promise hon!

Dear Frank,

I am 26 years old and have been seeing a guy for about 5 months now.
I am not overly lovey dovey but I can't help but feel a little upset that this guy hasn't even considered calling me his girlfriend any time soon.
I know that might sound irrational to some, but I'm sure many of you must see where I'm coming from. We spend a silly amount of time together and we really enjoy each others company. I am starting to become a little obsessed with this. I understand that a label is quite unimportant but there are times when I think he should value me more. The relationship has become a little more serious in certain ways but whenever people ask If I am his girlfriend, I am slightly embarrassed to say 'not quite'.
I know he likes me a lot but I have begun to actually question it because he doesn't want to seem to want to get too involved. I am ready for a steady relationship and I really don't think there is anything wrong with that? Please explain his messed up thoughts Frank! Tired of his laid back brain!

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Hi honey, I hope you are not letting this eat away at you too much. I can completely understand why you feel a little unloved. You have said you guys spend plenty of time together and seem to be happy which is great!
Perhaps you need to bring the matter up somehow. How about next time, when you are in a sticky situation where somebody asks, sit back and let him answer. Then when you are alone, ask him if he doesn't consider you more than someone he is 'seeing'.
The other alternative answer is that he has had some bad relationships in the past and is afraid that now he has found a seemingly faultless one, It might mess up with a 'label'. If this is the case, then you need to assure him that you really are into him a lot and perhaps point out how good its been so far!
I think he deserves a little more time so just make a few hints here and there and If he doesn't catch on, then maybe he needs to sort himself out!
At the end of the day, communication is the answer baby! Good luck!